Everyone is Watching

We may think everyone cares about our every little detail. Perhaps we were brought up with a higher level of self esteem and self importance. We’re raised to believe that we’re all winners and we’re all important (Thanks, Mom). But, do people really care about what we’re always doing?

I’m talking about sites like Twitter. It’s all about status updates. If you haven’t seen it, it’s a website that merely acts as the Facebook Status feature does. This simple site is exploding in popularity. Even John Edwards is using it!

Apparently many of us care enough to receive many updates from many people… many times a day!

But do people really care? I’m not sure.

Do we have the time to process all this information? I doubt it.

Effective and efficient relationships

Do you have the time? One of my biggest pet peeves is people who say they’re “too busy” and have “so much to do”. When I think about it, I know I spend more time caring about people’s Facebook status and pictures than I should. It seems like a waste of time but it also seems so easy to create and maintain relationships this way.

In the day and age where a huge percentage of twenty to thirtysomethings face depression, having these simple connections may not be such a bad thing. You easily keep in touch with people you can care about; people who can genuinely reciprocate with very little effort.

There’s obviously a reason why I create these online profiles and blogs. I feel like when I’m writing people are listening. They know that when they do the same, I’ll be listening, too. We’re having indirect conversations. I don’t need someone like Noah to leave a comment to know he reads and cares. I don’t even need my Dad to mention my blog. I know they’re around and keeping “in touch.”

Watching me like a hawk

I thought it was odd to think people would watch a profile closely enough to notice the changes. In fact, at first I found it silly my friend removed all her Facebook updates so nobody could see them. This was when Facebook added News Feeds and people thought it was creepy. Friends could easily tell what was going on all the time. Yes, it’s different, but it’s extremely simple to keep my friends “in the know” and vice versa. My life is pushed out to all of them instead of individually pulled out of me.

I really understood this the other day when every one of the five people I talked to had already seen my China pictures. Within 12 hours! These weren’t just my super close friends, either…

“Yeah, I put some pictures from China online if you want to check them out..”

“I saw them already.”

“…oh”

So, yes, it appears that everyone is watching and we all have some time to care. But, its the same as anything else: it has to be a priority. We’re all “too busy”, right? For me, keeping in touch with friends is a priority. So, yes, I saw their pictures from Spring Break the next morning, too.

I find that both useful and powerful.

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About Devin Reams

My name is Devin Reams and I founded this site to provide a useful news and review resource for Colorado skiers and snowboarders (and mountain enthusiasts). I've been skiing since I was a little kid (we moved out here when I was five years old) and I plan to ski for years beyond that. Although cosnow is not my full-time job it is my full-time winter hobby. I've been an "Epic Local" passholder since 2006 (when it was called a "Colorado Pass" or "Five Mountain Pass"). My favorite resorts are Beaver Creek and Breckenridge.

8 thoughts on “Everyone is Watching

  1. Coult

    Devin,

    Asshole. You didn’t take me to china, nor did you get me a souvenir. Oh well, I’ll remember when I do study abroad this summer not to get you that big keg of german beer I know you secretly desire.

    :P

    Mike

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  2. Anonymous

    In defense of said friend who declines to participate in status updates: there are those of us who prefer to choose who we “push” our information out to. Some people tend to not like compulsively sharing life details with online acquaintances. It’s not so much that we don’t like to share/care, but your title says it all. EVERYONE is watching…that’s kind of creepy. I tend to like to have a little bit more say and control over who my watchers are. “Anonymous” works for me: the people who need to who I am do, and the people who don’t aren’t harmed in any way by not knowing.
    Just in case you were wondering…

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  3. Jonathan

    Devin, interesting thoughts and something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately too. Damn interweb articles and friends keep getting in the way of my real relationships :P

    I think that “caring” is related to relevence, novelty and intersection. You’ve inspired me to write a post about this – or at least think about what I’m going to write…

    Cheers,
    JCH

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  4. Devin

    Hey Jonathan, I like your point (and read your ‘keeping in touch’ article) and can agree. I’d be interested in your related post, be sure to trackback so we can check it out. Thanks for stopping by…

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  5. Devin

    Mike, I know, I never know what to get Texans, though. Especially from a Communist country. Does that make your skin crawl? ;)

    Anon, you don’t need to come defend yourself. I realize not everyone would like to push the information out to everyone and you’d rather control that aspect of your life. That’s totally fine. But for me, the benefits outweigh the ‘creepiness’ (so far). :)

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